Judge ye not, lest ye be judged

Happy 2010! Hope you celebrated the end of 2009 in fine style and are looking forward to the prospect of a new year.

Frankly, due to reasons discussed on earlier posts here – I am glad to see the back of 2009. I'm not going to dwell on that too much because I don't think it's particularly healthy. I am also looking forward to a new start in 2010 – new opportunities, new pursuits, new friends. Etc etc.

It's almost like making new year resolutions (which I feel is just pointless – because they almost always fall by the wayside anyway) but I do want to start getting into good habits. Keep up my gym sessions, be more sociable, continue my excellent budgetting habits (even though it doesn't save me from being broke at the end of the month, at the moment) and push on with the skiing hobby / pursuit.

Anyway – that's enough of that.

I had a great night last night – went with some friends to the O2 Arena in Greenwich to the Ministry of Sound shindig. Highlight was DeadMau5 and Eric Prydz....

Met some new people as well – Reanna and Jill – lovely Irish girls and a good laugh. One thing surprised me though... Reanna came up to me at the end of the night and looked upset, a little bemused and upon her explaining to me I could understand why:

R: Has your mate James got a problem with me?
Me: I don't think so, why?
R: Well we were talking and he just stopped, gave me a hug and said 'Have a good night' – like that was the end of the conversaion
Me: Odd, what was said beforehand?
R: I honestly don't know – we were bantering and p*sstaking but that was the theme of the night
Me: Very strange....

I then spoke to James and asked what the issue was and he said that she was just doing his head in and there was no specific reason. I felt for Reanna, because she seemed really upset – I'm not sure if she took a bit of shine to James....

I then was talking to James and Dave (another mate) and Dave said Reanna was 'a bit of a drip' and James acknowledged this by saying 'Yeah, no personality, boring'.

Now I chatted and danced with Reanna at random intervals throughout the night and I thought she was a good laugh and that. She seemed a very homely girl and definitely not ugly or personalityless.

I guess to me it says a lot about my mates' ethos when Dave (who is currently in Sydney and lives the single life) says to me and James 'VERY disappointed with Reanna' (i.e. in terms of looks and that) and James nods in agreement.

I think James is in awe of Dave as he seems to be living the good life in Sydney, with all these women on the go and that. James is a funny one, because he's a good-looking chap, bags of personality, style, fashion and trendy – yet is terminally single. He's VERY inexperienced with women and I think his expectations are ridiculously high. I'm not sure why.....

So for me – recently single – and not really a 'player' as such – I am appreciative of female company – and I'm not judgemental – but it's not like Reanna was a troll or anything. She wasn't overly-bitchy, a man-hater, she was definitely a girly girl – she wasn't a stunner – but not ugly. So... I couldn't understand James' and Dave's judgemental stance.

In the sober cold light of day – I was talking to James on Gmail Chat and quipped about not adding Reanna on Facebook – and he was like 'Haha... nah' – I didn't go into the reasons again what the problem was – mainly as I reckon he was holding something back – some issue there – not sure. There may be more there than meets the eye – or, and it's entirely possible, James has deemed Reanna 'not worthy' of his attentions any longer. (He can be a prick like that, unfortunately)

I don't know why I feel the need to mention this on here – I guess because it's incredibly harsh and judgemental on the part of James and Dave towards Reanna – and I expect a little better of both of them – they're long time friends. I guess once your lives take different paths (with Karen and her issues, I became extremely compassionate and undertstanding about certain stuff, whereas before I was an impatient, judgemental idiot – and Dave is a single young buck hopping from bed to bed in Sydney, and I'm sure James is sort of following his lead on that)

Anyway that's my rant for today. Again I hope 2010 is great for you – I am off up to Walsall tomorrow to catch up with some ex-work colleagues and have some drinks and that. Looking forward to it!

Take care guys,

D